I have my front HPF at 100, rear HPF at 120 and sub set to through since the LPF is handled by the amp. The slope I have set at 12, gain is 0. However, I gave up on the factory speakers in my 2004 many years ago. Currently I have a fully custom sound system.
For my settings I found I was unable to use what others had. Each vehicle and the components installed are different for each. So the settings have to be custom for your system and your preference. I just did a bit of research on what each setting does and then kept messing with the settings until I got what sounded right to me. Aside from the EQ settings, the time delay made the biggest difference in sound quality.