When I was a kid a friend of mine worked a gas station and he put engine oil in an auto trans. (don't remember any more about it.)
IIRC, Honda cars from the late 80's (possibly longer) used engine oil for their transmissions.
To OP, not mentioned and read the entire thread. Possibly too late, but is a crate motor possibly in the equation? Or too much?
I have spent a few grand for repairs/improvements after I bought my '03 5.4 EB 2WD. A fair 144k miles. I'd seriously consider for my truck a reman engine. Engine cost, plus labor (I have an insanely inexpensive indy shop, but great on work) very close to $3K+'ish, not adding core or taxes if applicable. Everything else on the '03 is running great.
Of course there could be other weak links down the road, but that's the way it works with cars/trucks with mileage.