Never buy a vehicle owned by female. They usually don't give a rip about maintenance. When something breaks, they go into a panic. I have niece, sister and cousin all with same attitude. The know nothing about cars and don't care. My cousin has had car after car, with problems. She now leased a Jeep...that is always in the shop. My sister destroys every car she has had, new and used. Her battery has died 8 times this past year. Her car has had, no oil in it. She broke the back window. Knocked the side view mirror off. I don't think she has ever washed it. In short, her favorite expression is 'it's only car'. The plugs should of been changed before it hit 100K. You are way over. If your engine starts misfiring, say bye bye to your Catalytic converters. Have the dealer do them, since you are not a 'maintenance guy'.
There are plenty of guys that are just as bad. There are guys who don't know how to check the oil and never have. Some cars are, just cars and people really don't care about them but some little things are done not to do because if you neglect them too badly you'll have to replace them and that will cost you more money than adding a quart of oil every now and then.
But a lot of these people do lots of stupid things and make dumb decisions in our lives. I know people like this that he gave them a list of five good decisions they wouldn't choose either one. They would make up a 6th that would be a terrible one and do that.
These people are usually quite low on the income scale and seem to always have problems and never get ahead in the world and can barely dog paddle to keep up in life. Wonder why?
I have a lady who I've been doing repairs on her last three cars for about 15 years maybe longer.
If it weren't for me she would have been through more cars in this. Of time because she would have been presented with an astronomical repair bill to fix something stupid like a starter alternator and she would have gone out and finance another car because she didn't have the money to fix the one she had.
It's about the only reason I work on stuff for people is to keep the shop from getting that kind of money.
So I sold her hey 94 Saturn Station Wagon about 9 years ago for $1,400. And yes, a good deal of that was on time in monthly payments.
Over the course of nine years we had to put three or four tires on it and a starter and a water pump and replace one rear brake line and the front sway bar and rust it off with the unique design to Saturn and the repair quotes for 300 to $600.
I ground off the rust and got a giant grade 5 bolt and ground it down and weld it to the end and put two new spacer bushings on and that's been fixed for about 3 years now.
She had put a crap load of miles on it and it was having transmission issues and I explained to her that it was time to throw in the towel and buy something else.
She is a crazy old cat lady and has extra emotional Hangouts about getting attached to items. Her refrigerator is a 1973 model but it is self defrosting and I repaired it three times for her because she just can't bring herself to get rid of it and get another one. She's already put more money into it they would have cost to buy a used one off of marketplace or heck, people give them away all the time but she just can't let it go.
When I met her she had the car she was driving that broke down and someone referred her to me to fix it and her old car was parked in her garage for two years taking up the space because it broke down and she didn't get it fixed and wouldn't have it towed away.
It took a lot of convincing but I got her to junk two vehicles and sell them for scrap. She is a mess to say the least.
So it was time to get rid of the Saturn as we just couldn't Band-Aid it together any longer and she drives a lot and even takes three or four trips a year several hours away. She broke down near a garage fairly further away from me so she ended up there getting some minor repair done on a radiator hose I believe and this place also had some used cars for sale. I offered to sell her an old used Taurus and she asked me about it. I told her to stay away that she would end up in worse shape than she started and we should go find her a better car and don't buy out of desperation.
The car before her Saturn I went with the car lot and found for her and we bought it and then I sold her the Saturn which is a used car that I had bought and fixed up.
So we're on the phone and she tells me at least twice that she has a habit of making bad decisions!! So I tell her, exactly! This is what I'm telling you. You know you have a habit of making bad decisions and I'm telling you you're about to make one so don't do it!
Did you listen to me, nope. Because she has no self-control and always feel she's a victim.
She always makes comments like well I don't have any other choice I just don't know what I'm going to do.
Sometimes you can only help people or tolerate their crap for so long.
This is the same lady who when her car was broken down was riding the bus over 10 miles to a speciality pet store to get cat food because that's what she wanted to feed her cats instead of making do with any other type of cat food or one of the many that the Kroger store walking distance from her house has. She thought it was absolutely insane an inconceivable that I told her she can obviously get by for a few days 2 2 weeks with her cats and her own stuff and it wouldn't kill her to alter her plans and her diet a little bit. Of course she's vegan so this is even more of an issue. But still a grocery store like Kroger has plenty of things you can do and still be vegan.
It's just not that she's stubborn and set in her ways she's just so used to it she mentally can't handle change or deviation. It's really sad that people have mental problems like this because it's definitely a mental hang up that messes up their lives.
I hate most all change but I'm all into anything that makes my life easier or improves it.
So after about 15 years I had to cut her off. She called me a couple of times and I didn't return her calls so she can just find someone else to check her oil and do her little minor stuff on her car.
I know what will happen though. Eventually she will have a bigger repair and they will present her with a 500 or $600 repair bill and she will panic and call me in desperation to see if there's any possible way that I could look at it for her. My life is much less stressful without her calling me.
I understand that if you loan someone money you shouldn't tell them how to spend it but, when they broke again in two weeks you don't have to loan them any more. This is how I see it with advice and help too.
If you don't take my good advice then I'm not going to repeatedly pull you out of a hole when you keep falling in.
