Sorry, I meant my third kid can sit in the middle of the second row bench seat and see either screen. We did a quick check and I was told that kids can see the screens from the 3rd row. If one of my kids is banished to the third row, I'm sure they will complain that they don't have their own screen/can't see the screens/that I love the others more, so that's why we got the bench seat in the second row. YMMV.
I've never heard about having captain's chairs for 3-4 kids. Seems like more seats would be better...? I didn't get that memo when my twins were born...ha! What is the rationale for 2nd row captains chairs? We got them in the Sienna because that was the only option for AWD. If we had a 8 passenger AWD option for the van we would have taken it. The other reason we got the 2nd row bench this time is because we didn't get the MAX. If I need some extra room to carry stuff, we can always drop the 3rd row seats and everyone can fit in the 2nd row. I couldn't do that in the Sienna; I couldn't do that in any other cars we looked at because the higher trim levels swapped the bench seat for captains chairs. (We have a older F-250 to haul plywood and do dump runs, so we didn't need the MAX for hauling.)
I think your kids might be older but the advice I hear over and over again is that with younger kids, IF you intend on using the 3rd row all the time, definitely go with captains in the second row with 3-4 kids:
1- its hard for them to release one of the seats (in the bench configuration) AND also to push the seat back once they get into the 3rd row. They are just not strong enough so as the adult you have to walk around every time without exception and do that for them when they get in/out of the car. However, with captains, they can just walk through the aisle and get themselves into the third row (assuming they are 3-4 years old or more so they can buckle themselves in too! but even if they are younger its still easier for the adult and saves time...its all about saving time with kids).
2- without captains, kids will climb all over your second row seats/scuff the roof to get into the third row..
3- Once everyone is in the seats and driving...its soooo much more comfortable for the kids to have a little bit more space on those trips. They have more personal space and have the center area (aisle for 2nd row/extra seat for 3rd row) to place a few of their belongings... Plus with more personal space there's less fighting, poking, etc, and more peace for everyone...
4- The third row becomes less claustrophobic! And it becomes comfortable for adults. Even if the seating is decent in the 3rd row, as is with the Expy, the 2nd row bench takes up about 70% of your frontal/forward view. However, with captains seats in the 2nd row, it really opens up the space and makes every single seat amazing. Yes, you have one less seat, but when you don't need that seat 99% of the time, why not make the comfort super awesome for those other 99%!
FYI- i've pretty much read these same points over and over and over on all the parent blogs, Suburban/minivan configuration blogs, and also keep hearing this again and again from people I know who have tried both at all my school PTA groups...you know, us parents have to talk about something car related to keep it fun...
We've got 4 kids and think the 2nd row bench is a requirement. It's the only way you can fit a complete set of grandparents in the car. That said, our Odyssey usually has the middle seat removed from the center row. (We have two car carseats in the center row, which makes access difficult due to the lack of the tip-and-slide seats in our van.) We rented a Pacifica this last fall on vacation and the tip and slide made 3rd row access easy even with carseats installed.
Exactly! Typically, this is the easiest way for a family to get in/out of the vehicle, and also to travel in comfort. Yes, I too have thought of being able to transport grandparents, aunts/uncles, etc. but hey, that happens a few times a year when they visit and decide not to rent a car, but having the extra comfort for my family 99% of the time trumps the 1%. PS, when my family of 5 travels to any relative's house by plane, no one picks us up because we're too big a family, we always rent a car (Expy or Suburban). Plus its more convenient.