If you're careful, it can be adjusted without "damaging" anything. Just don't push the gapping tool against the center electrode with any amount of force when checking the gap.
I replaced mine with Champion iridium plugs about a month or so ago and had to adjust each one. Since they are meant for many vehicles, they came pregapped at 0.041, whereas I needed 0.054 (quite a difference).
I gapped the plugs, installed them and the truck runs great. By the way, the safest tool to check gap is this wire type, which is what I bought & used :