Didnt try to back probe the starter solenoid tonight, but i did make sure the starter relay was clicking. i could feel it when my daughter turned the key.
I think the PCM is ok because the message center is normal no dashes or weird displays,just low oil pressure warning after trying (no crank just turning the key)to start. the keyless entry works,both the keyfob and door code works. tried putting it in neutral to start, acts exactly the same ,i guess im down to the starter/starter solenoid. could it be anything else?