Well, its hard to estimate. Some vehicles reactly differently than others. When you say exhaust and headers, do you mean all of it or cat back and headers and what size pipe did you use? What kind of muffler? (gibson I would assume) I know it seems trivial but it is all relevant
Figure, if you replaced the whole exhaust with 2.5 inch, added high flow cats, and a decent flowing muffler, you added 6-12 HP.
As for the TB spacer, I got one of those two and found a basic nill response. We'll say 1HP
The hypertech programmer; which program, the 87 or 93 tune?
Assuming the 93 tune (or 91 whatever it is) was used and we'll say an average gain of 8%. Thats 21 hp on a 265HP motor
So, add them all up, maximum increase of 34HP. Most likely around 25-30 HP.
All that money you spent on a gibson exhuast and you could have just about bought a blower. If you are really serious about performance, watch ebay for an F-150/Expedition/Navigator blower to go through. I bought mine on there for my 98 2 weeks ago and it is great!