I did have the wobble socket and extensions shown on youtube , but could not get it positioned as the guy showed.
I spent well over an hour trying numerous methods and extensions shown on the internet and I came to the conclusion a 2007 4x4 el limited has something off in the architecture from later years.
Though I could be wrong.
I consider solenoid removal as the only way to remove the starter.
Thanks everyone for the encouragement,and suggestions.
The fuel pump and plug change combined took less time